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We are working on keeping cool. Thank God for AC!
Our animals need about constant care in this heat. Did you know pigs don’t sweat? That’s why they need mud, the water evaporates much like sweat on our skin.
We garden in the morning during the cool hours, which means early mornings for these farm kids. I make it up to them, don’t worry.
See we rock the work/play thing around here, somedays .
Lehmann Family Zoo Staff and Management
In the minds of Americans this weekend kicks off summer! Its no different in my neck of the woods. My kids joined in the Memorial Day parade with their 4H club this morning. The rushing around was almost humorous. They needed their club shirts and nice pants and grabbed their posters. Ran out the door a little bit later than I had planned but not excessively, I swear! When to jump in the rig and click, click, click artrgggrahdjh! Called the DH to rescue us and jump the battery, he got to come with us, Yay! Showed up to the float muster dumped the kids and blew some kisses. Parked on Main St. by the library so we could steal wi-fi while waiting and then enjoyed the parade, got a ton of candy too.
My three year old is one the most conniving little imps ever! His adorable innocence can lull anyone, including me, into a false sense of security. He begs me daily to nap on my lap. This day was no different. He’s big brown eyes glancing up at me made me smile that “mom” smile. The one that you are thinking I will never be mad at this child again. Yeah right! He was being so so sweet. Looking at me with adoration that only a toddler can achieve. He reaches up a few times and pats my cheek lovingly. Once I even caught his chubby little hand with my lips showing him the adoration that only a mother can show. Then without warning his little hand sneaked up towards my face again. His finger was pointing and slid straight up my nose. The little devil!
We have been revamping things in our home since Christmas. We started a process of attitude adjustment and working towards the final phase of content. With the news my dd failed her first semester of 5th grade, came the plan of testing for learning disabilities and other mental health issues. It has been a tough process for all involved.
I always thought that “bad” kids came from “bad” parenting. As I look back over the last 10 years of my dd short life I don’t see bad. I see some bad choices and mistakes but nothing out of the ordinary. I do see teachers, educators, and other professionals that don’t listen to parents though. Two years ago we put dd on ADHA meds at the suggestion of psychologists and school officials. After 6 months of watching my little girl suffer the side effects of these drugs and the doctors just give her more drugs to balance out the side effects we said enough! We weaned her off her meds and she is now drug free but still full of issues. The meds never helped these problems.
To streamline this process we set up rules that fit all occasions; at home, in public, as a guest, etc. All my kids have to do is THINK.
Is it Thoughtful
Is it Helpful
Is it Intelligent
Is it Necessary
Is it Kind
in 6 weeks I have not found a situation that these simple rules do not apply. Even my struggling dd has improved a little bit and that’s something that hasn’t happened in years.
Out here in the middle of nowhere, about 20 min from town, many wonder how we raise kids without breaking the budget. I am here to offer several tips that work for us. You could use many of these principals living in town too.
First and most important, get organized! If the kids have a 4H meeting or story-time make the trip to town productive. Run to the post office, make the trip to the store for perishables, and head to the bank. Yes, it is tiring but you get it done.
Second, this goes with the previous step and anything else, make a list. If you need to get milk, eggs, and apples at the store write it down. That way two days later you’re not making a dawn run to the store for milk.
Third, remember bulk is cheaper. When I make a list for groceries it will last us two weeks. I will get anything that will last the whole two weeks at that point. Five pounds of hamburger, a gallon jar of pickles, large bagged cereal, etc.
Lastly, prioritize! Do you need it now or can it wait? I have found that much of what I think I need so bad one day I end up not buying, finding an alternative, or getting a better price when I do my big shopping day.
These tips are how I provide all food stuff and home stuff to my family of 7 for 700$ a month and keeping my fuel bill to 200$ a month, remember I have a 36 mile round trip when I head into town.
Just a quick update. Our oldest tad pole, the kids named Fred I think, has all four legs and a rapidly shrinking tail. Our second one has just started to change colors from the dark gray of a young tad pole to the brown of an adult and its rear legs are starting to form. His name is either George or Bob, depends on the kid.